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The beauty of fall: It can be savored, but not saved

In the first years after my grandparents bought their Minnesota lake cabin (a full 150 miles from our prairie hometown), I had a love affair with cattails. As far as I was concerned, cattails edging that Minnesota lake, spilling out into every ditch and low spot, were a delightful display of opulence that the prairie lacked. More than indicating the end of summer, they were a legion of little soldiers trumpeting the glory of fall.

With their tubular shape and rich brown fuzzy sheaths atop long stalks, they so charmed me that one Labor Day weekend when I was in high school I insisted on cutting a dozen or so and carting them home. I intended to make a wonderful centerpiece for the dining room table. My mother was dubious about my plans, telling me, “They’ll burst and send fluffy seeds everywhere.”

But I insisted I’d hang them to dry on the basement clothesline and spray them with acrylic. “They won’t burst,” I said confidently.

A few weeks later, they burst and sent fluffy seeds everywhere.

I don’t remember ascribing a moral to the cattail tale back then, but I might now. Indeed, it’s an uncomplicated thought, one echoed in the seasons of life. Simply put, the beauty of fall can be savored but not saved.

When folks talk about fall’s “peak,” they’re usually talking about those few fleeting days after almost all trees and shrubs have turned color and the resulting montage is a panorama of brilliance — a brief and stunning instant before winter sets in.

The moment when we have it all
I look at “peak,” however, as the seasonal moment when we have it all: harvested wheat fields shiny with rubble; soybeans, reddish yellow and withering; corn, tall and rusty-tasseled; sugar beets, green and full; ivy, overgrown and red-tinged; and maples, aglow all by themselves while neighboring trees are green, dotted only here and there with yellow patches. Lawns still need mowing, flowers bloom, and shirtsleeve weather prevails (at least, shirtsleeve afternoons). The end of summer and the beginning of fall intermingle.

In the seasons of life, it’s harder to recognize when we have it all. Only after loss or change do we see — albeit in the rearview mirror — the fullness we’ve enjoyed.

My sister-in-law’s mother died a few weeks ago. She was a capable, energetic, woman, a loving wife, mom, and grandmom on the early side of her mid-seventies. One moment she was making morning coffee and the next she was gone. Her family is in shock: She was their center. It wasn’t that they took her for granted, and yet, they hadn’t entirely realized how integral she was to every facet of their lives. In her, the threads of their lives became cord and cable. Now, they feel frayed, unraveled.

No doubt, kind friends assure them they will pull through, that she would want them to get their lives back to normal. It’s our cultural expectation. But if we think about it, it’s as silly as telling new parents to get back to what they were before their baby was born. Folks aren’t wallowing in grief when they face that loss has changed life irrevocably. Quite the opposite: Trying to live as they did before is the harmful pretense.

In a philosophical piece for the NY Times titled “On Not Returning to Normal,” Tom Sorell, the director of the Center for the Study of Global Ethics at Birmingham University, says that tragedies and emergencies “should usher in discontinuity.” Most of his discussion is about the enormity of public emergencies, such as the tragedy of 9/11, but he extends it to personal upheavals in life. He ends by saying that “break[ing] from our past” in the wake of misfortune or loss “is not at all for us to be broken” by it. We reconsider what is most important and reconnect with life as changed people.

Saying fall is “bittersweet” is a cliché. But it resonates. The season begins in sensory fullness and predictably ends bleak and bare. As the season goes by, nature’s glory gives us moments we ought to enjoy, moments that don’t last.

We’re wise to appreciate beautiful moments in our lives, too — times to savor that we cannot keep.

A writer and columnist from Fargo, N.D., Jane Ahlin also has taught English at Minnesota State University Moorhead.

Comments (2)

  1. Submitted by Hénock Gugsa on 09/24/2010 - 11:36 am.

    Thank you, Ms. Ahlin.

    It is very true, Fall does indeed bring out the romantic, the philosophical, and the spiritual in all of us.

    Often, Fall evokes sadness, wistfulness, or tearful exhilaration. And “Nature” reflects to us what our lives have been about. This is a time of self-evaluation, a kind of urgent audit at a critical stage when we still may have some control of our lives.

    Have we loved, and have we loved right? Have we appreciated enough the gifts of life and love? Have we given back in at least the same measure as we’ve got?

    And those “cattails” … oh, those cattails evoked a picture of an empty nest, a parent letting a child go out into the world.

    Fall is a time of fulfillment, a glad time actually if your life has meant something to you or others. If not, then Fall is still a time of hope, of a chance for redemption. Above all, Fall is a hurry-up time, a time of preparation before Winter sets in and finality (death) is at the door.

    It is good that “Thanksgiving Day” happens to fall in the Fall. But why did they have to put it all the way at the end of November?!

  2. Submitted by Hénock Gugsa on 09/24/2010 - 01:58 pm.

    Just an FYI: I have also posted the above (#1) comments in my personal blog at … http://thepatientox.blogspot.com/2010/09/thoughts-on-fall-by-tpo-aka-jj-sefton.html

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